One of my jobs as Angelika the Personal Assistant Cat is to surf the web daily and print out news stories, social media posts, and other material and file them. I love to research. Print? Not so much. File? ? No, except it makes the place neater.
This intel roundup gives me a perspective that casual or uninformed readers and even active activists might miss or just plain ignore: the stupid things people say about the adopted, adoption and foster care, baby boxes, reproductive rights/liberty justice, and just plain sex. These people are obsessed with sex, gender, and other people’s sex lives. Trust me, cats may be judgy about a lot of things but we don’t care about what’s in or out of your pants.
Since I now have my own little corner, I’ve decided to post some of these ignorant “opinions” and “facts.” I call them Kitty Litter. I had planned three “winners” today, but the putative boss (the PB) said one wasn’t timely and she nicked the other for herself. Figures!
Our debut Kitty Litter post is about Students for Life and by extension, its proprietress, Kristian Hawkins, a mother of five whose student days are long behind her. According to the latest SFL 990, (free registration required), she gets paid over $200,00 a year including benefits, to tell other people what to do with their bodies and how to live her approved lifestyle. She posts obsessively, so I don’t know if she came up with this embarrassing tweet herself (it sounds like her) or some high school intern did, so, for now, it’s a stand-alone Students for Life.
My first thought upon reading this bizarre tweet was “on what planet does SFL live?” (Technically, it’s located in Fredericksburg, Virginia). Finally, I put my paws on the keyboard to have a go at it.
Mrs. Hawkins, et al are essentialists who actually post the claim that “real women” want children and need to be mothers. In a pinch, a desperate prospective mom, even if unmarried and supposedly sex-free, can appropriate a child of her own off an “unworthy” but “real woman” — who tussled in the sheets– through adoption. Adoption is a miracle! Adoption is beautiful!
This essentialist ideology implies that women who can’t conceive, carry to term, or for other reasons don’t have children aren’t “real women.” And, those Godless childfree-by-choice folks? Well . . . what’s to say? I don’t know if SFL has even addressed scary trans people who give birth. Since only “real women” can do that, where does that leave those folks who do? Are their children “real children?”
Does SFL think that those “brave women” who give birth and opt out of motherhood via -forced birth arm-twisting adoption surrender don’t experience maternal thoughts and aren’t “real women” after all? Are those miscreants who relinquish of their own free will, on the same immoral level as “aborting women” since the free-willers reject the sweet call of motherhood possibly without regret?
Chicken Baby in Every Pot!
Students for Life, despite its boggle-minded playbook, is convinced that forced birth creates a population of valued children forever wanted, forever loved. Is SFL smoking some drug I’ve never heard of? So here are a few thoughts about their pipe dreams off the top of my head, which is on a lot tighter than theirs.
Will child abuse miraculously stop in Mississippi—the Dobbs v Jackson home ground—with post-Roe births? Since all children will now have value, can child protective services and courts be abolished?
Will the US turn socialist”—or worse “communist”—to expand government programs and benefits to “real” or even “fake’ women? Can we expect a new “War on Poverty,” not to create a more economically equitable society, but so women can happily do their all-expense paid natural duty to breed, cook, and clean for an increasingly theocratic state?
Hey! How about “wages for housework” a controversial radical feminist anti-capitalist proposal 50 years ago, still around, that the far-right and a few anti-abortion loudmouths glommed on to decades later as a tool to solidify domestic gendered roles and act as a financial incentive to convince women to stay home where they belong.
Will all children live in cozy, smart gadget, middle-class homes with content SAH moms and hard-working dads who bring home the bacon and take them on a vacation to “the lake’ or “the mountains” for a week in July?
At some later date, putative father rigamarole will be discussed by me or the PB, but for now: Do these nitwits actually believe (as some have proposed) that putative fathers are going to divvy-up child support for ZEF’s (Zygote-Embryo-Fetus) of possible unknown origin? Does SFL realize that the government can’t even collect child support for the post-born? Perhaps we should install a special federal agency to shake down suspected fathers of the unborn.
Let’s bring back shotgun weddings!
Really now! It doesn’t seem like SFL and its ilk have thought out their language and its implications very thoroughly.
The False Value of the Valued Child
Vectored propaganda purposes aside, (and for another day) the expected value of this population of children “valued from the time of conception” is their value to the infant adoption industry, the almost wholly owned subsidiary of Protestant Evangelicals and the Catholic Church. This cult envisions forced birth as a solution to sexually transgressive women and their unfortunate progeny, and the danger both supposedly pose to the patriarchal state. Of course, the ZEF cult pays lip service and services to single moms and their “disadvantaged” progeny (something is better than nothing, at least for now), but the ultimate goal is to control women’s bodies and reproductive decisions. If that can’t be accomplished, then to navigate the destiny of the fruits of roaming wombs. If $30,000-$60,000 can be made from the sale of each apple, orange, and grape, all’s the better.
Most (but not all) adoption agencies, adoption facilitators, adoption lawyers, baby boxers, baby brokers, fellow travelers along with law and policymakers are scratching their claws to drag ZEF carriers into the (they hope) revitalized adoption system. We (the PB and I )are not convinced that huge numbers will fall into their clutches, but we expect some kind of uptick in product.
The ZEF cult, of course, is not interested in extending their ZEF rights demands to the already-born, especially the already-born adopted class aka Class Bastard. The cult, by in large, does not support adoptee autonomy and the restoration of adoptee rights.
Organizations and individual subscribers of forced birth are simply adopteephobics who claim they “love adoptees.” They show their Big Love by promoting secret pregnancy and birth, coercive and secret adoption surrender practices, baby boxes, and ultimately shame among adopted people, their biological parents, and often adoptive parents. They rattle their keyboards and show up en masse in statehouses across the country to oppose legislation that restores the right of their state’s adoptees to their original birth certificates, related adoption and court records, and to learn their origins and histories. Yet they–especially Safe Haven Baby Box entrepreneurs— go all gooey-eyed over reunion stories on TV and Facebook
When the adopted complain about their treatment in legislatures, courts, on social media, and in real life, the ZEF cult calls them selfish, ungrateful, and mentally impaired. Even terrorists! Sometimes Satan whispers in their ears. Online these ungrateful bastards are reported as “abusive.” They are accused of “hate speech” as if they are Proud Boys, Hitler sycophants, or the Klan. They get thrown into social media jail or even lose their accounts for speaking about their own lived experiences.
Everyday responses from forced birthers and adopteephobics to lived experience:
- Would you rather have been aborted?
- Would you rather have been thrown in a dumpster?
- Your mother loved you so much that she gave you away
- Your mother loved you so much that she didn’t murder you
- You have mental problems
- I’ll pray for you
- If you are so unhappy go kill yourself
Does any of this sound “life-affirming”?
Does any of this sound very “valued from conception?”
No! This is top-grade KITTY LITTER!
NOTE from SSHBBN: Angelika plans to kick up her Kitty Litter every Sunday except in the unlikely event that no one has said anything stupid or offensive during the week or she’s in Catalonia. She’s late this week because she s a wordy cat, loses track of time, and is a tiresome perfectionist.
NOTE from Angelika: Don’t listen to her. I am not wordy. I am a deep thinker and always punctual. If I were a perfectionist, I wouldn’t work as the PB’s personal assistant cat. Truth is, she thought she could make my blog better–and couldn’t. If I miss a deadline, it’s her fault.